The Mood & Mind Centre
|Posted on 9 March, 2021 at 3:30|
Written by Colette Dekker (February 2021)
With our busy lifestyles, maintaining a work-life balance during a relationship, could be challenging. All too many find it difficult to put their partner first. Then how do one balance the increasing demands of a career with the real-life responsibilities involved in maintaining a happy long-term romantic relationship?
Here is some practical (some obvious) advice:
1. Be completely present.
Think about it. How many times have you been with someone you care about, but at the same time you're:
- Scrolling endlessly through your Facebook newsfeed
- Thinking about what you have to do tomorrow
- Half listening to them
- Talking nonstop about your projects, and neglecting to ask them about their day
2. Keep things black and white.
When you're at work, work. When you're not at work, stop working. Make your home an asylum where you can escape the day-to-day madness.
It's okay for the two of you to get some extra work done in the evening, as long as you have set aside designated time for your partner. When you get home from a long day, your first instinct shouldn't be to open your laptop and continue working. Take some time to reconnect and recharge with your partner.
If there are kids, schedule “us” time after they went to bed. Unwind together.
Your bedroom is your sanctuary, and therefore a no work zone. Make the rule of no phones and no laptops in bed.
3. Stop glorifying 'busy.'
When people ask how you are, do you automatically reply with, "So busy!" as if it that were the highest-value state you could be in?
If it is, stop filling your calendar with low-leverage work and start adding your partner into it more often. Create non-negotiable dates with your partner and make a physical or digital reminder for yourself, this way you are more likely to take those dates seriously. You'll start treating date night as a priority and be less likely to forget about it.
4. Create more time.
Open up your schedule for your relationship by outsourcing mundane tasks. Hire a cleaning service, have healthy meals delivered to your doorstep or hire a personal trainer to get you up earlier in the day for your workout.
All of these things add up to more hours available to spend with your partner. And, if and when something does come up with work, your partner will be more supportive of your taking time off to deal with it.
5. Be proud of your relationship.
Consider your relationship goals as important as those for your career, and celebrate your successes when you reach significant milestones.
A successful relationship comes with hard work, so don't be afraid to show off a little.
Undoubtedly, you know several entrepreneurs who have divorced several times. And almost always the reason is a drop in communication. So, don't suffer the same fate. Ultimately, what good is a life full of business success when you have no one to share it with?
In the end, putting effort into your relationship will result in your emotional and physical health as well as a thriving career.